Sunday, September 19, 2010
Back to School. Stalking is a skill set.
When I first started getting into Twitter, I followed all the big Mommy Bloggers. Nothing would be more exciting than getting a response, or horning in on a conversation one of them was having.
Until one night.
I told one of the women, in a tweet, that I thought she was fabulous, and I was stalking her with orange stained Cheetos fingers.
I laughed at my cleverness, until I logged back on to see that a couple of these big Mommy Blogger chicks were having a conversation about how they hated people who used the word: “stalk”.
Gulp. One even posted a link about a teacher that was killed by a stalker. (They didn’t note in the article if Cheetos had played a role in the murder.)
Wow. I felt terrible. Cuz I hate that kinda stuff.
So I went on to post an apology.
But I couldn’t. Cuz these two women had BLOCKED me! Not for using the “f” word, or bitching about my kids, but cuz I had manifested my adoration for them by telling them I was Twitter Stalking them.
Fast forward one year.
I still don’t use the word stalk much. Cuz I’m scared of the backlash. (Though anything that has to do with Cheetos and Stalking does make me laugh.)
But I have discovered that my stalking skills are a real boost to being involved in my childrens’ lives.
When we moved to Palm Springs, I checked out the local school, by assuming a semi-squatting position in the bushes (bougainvillea of course, kinda thorny) so I could watch the families and their kids interact with each other on their way into the school.
I actually wept, when I saw a Daddy and his little girl ride bikes to school. Then the Dad rode off, carrying that little pink bike on his shoulder.
I saw the PTA ladies talking to everyone.
I wanted to be part of that group.
So I straightened my legs, and walked into the group. That welcomed us (and my petrified, at that time, 7 year old).
So we signed up.
Every day (sometimes from the bushes, sometimes from out in the open) I watched these mothers embrace my daughter, a brand new student coming into the school in the 3rd grade.
And our lives have never been the same.
In case you want to know who I am? Drop by the middle school this week. I’m the mother who walks in the odd crouching position, hovering outside the 6th grade classrooms.
I see many touching acts of kindness. By kids and adults. Every day.
Cuz stalking? Baby, it’s a skill set.